January 20, 2015

How To Be Pretty //

Being pretty is not just what you wear or the new hairstyle you're trying out. Being pretty is about much more then you think.

Being pretty is about first realizing that you are beautiful and that nobody can determine you worth and happiness.

You are beautifully and uniquely you. I know you are probably like yeah yeah Grace I already know all this stuff. I hear it all the time.

I understand that -- but I don't think you actually do. If you did believe that NOBODY can define your happiness then you wouldn't compare your clothes to the newest trend or the way you speak or carry and present yourself. You wouldn't try to change YOU to try to fit in with that group who they themselves don't understand what being pretty really means, because if they did they wouldn't send of this vibe to you that says in order to be accepted and blend in with us you have to change what makes you you and what sets you apart.

Those people that do that aren't pretty because if they we're truly pretty that would show in all areas of their life, their speech, their spirit, and in their demeanor.

What a shame it is to go through life having those people determine your happiness and your worth.

Every-time you wake up in the morning with air in your lungs and a pulse, there's a purpose for you and your life. Every single one of us is here for a reason. We get one life. One chance. You do have a choice. You have the freedom to live your life to the fullest. If you find yourself not in a place you want to be you can change that right now! It might not be easy, it will probably be scary and uncomfortable but you just need to believe in yourself and surround yourself with those people that will help you get to where you want to be and who you want to become.

I often see and hear from many girls about being pretty. We are constantly surrounded by what we aren't and what we don't have instead of what we do have. We are such a superficial society.

The truth is that society see's pretty as being x inches tall or x pounds on the scale or having long curly flowing hair or beautiful tan skin. And that's sad. We shouldn't have to fill this mold of society's pretty.

Sometimes we might wish that we were friends with that pretty girl next to us in class and that if we were maybe some of her prettiness will rub off on me and once I'm "pretty" all my worries and struggles will go away. But the truth is, they won't. Because happiness and fulfillment doesn't come in trying to fill this "mold of perfection" or even in being friends with the pretty girl. Happiness and true beauty will shine forth when we give ourselves permission to be that unique individual that we were created to be.

The pretty people aren't the ones who spend hours on their hair and makeup. The real pretty people are the ones that try to make others feel pretty. How you make other people feel says a lot about you. 

The ones that randomly come up to you without ever having met you before to say that they like your shoes or your hairstyle. They are the pretty ones because they are going out of their way and stepping out of themselves to self assure another person.

Compliments can save a person's life. You never know what a few words of encouragement could mean to someone, because you never know what somebody is going through. And you may never know what your few words meant to them you just did your part and followed what your heart was telling you at the time.

So you see beauty is so much more than the makeup. As much as I love makeup and all the beauty paraphernalia, the makeup industry has killed the teenage girl, and until we find another mode of pretty besides trying to find the perfect hair extensions, that's just how it's going to be.
We need to make a change and start seeing pretty for what it actually is. Pretty is about perspective.
Pretty is the face of a down syndrome child, who though may not have a face of a model contains the purest and truest beauty out there because they radiate joy to everyone who comes in contact with them.

The first step in transforming the way the world sees pretty is first understanding what pretty means to us and living it.



  1. Wow Grace, this post. It is so beautiful and true. Thanks for sharing :)

  2. This was beautiful. :) thank you for reminding me of what being pretty really is. God bless you for reminding girls that if they shine their true selves through, it doesn't matter how much make up they put on that day. :D

  3. Wow... Thank you, Grace. That was very beautiful and encouraging.

  4. I just came across this post, and this is absolutely beautiful. I love reading encouraging reminders like this. Love your blog <3 :)