February 14, 2015

Finding Joy in Singlehood

While everyone is posting about date night ideas and getting dressed for that fancy dinner with that special someone, I thought I would share with you a few reasons why I think singlehood is actually a beautiful + joyous time in persons life.

Singleness: a word that has so much negativity, loneliness,  and questions. What no boyfriend? She must be ugly. She has no future.
‘Everyone else’ is in a relationship right now, so why shouldn’t I be?  Is something wrong with me?

That is how the world views singlehood. But I view it as a joyous soul searching period.

I am a HS Senior and have never been on a date. And I haven't been looking.

"High school is about finding your bridesmaids not your husband"

Single is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on anyone except God.  It’s a person who is trusting God with their future, with their life, and with their love story.

These early years when your on the peak of adulthood is a time when you should be finding who you are. These are the years of possibility and growing and exploring. These are the years when you find out what it means to be you. When you form your own opinions and make your own decisions.

There's joy in being a single young woman.

You don't have to go through all that heart ache and confusion of having a boyfriend who he himself hasn't found what it means to be a young man.

You don't have to date in High School or College to feel fulfilled. You don't have to settle down in a serious relationship or jump from multiple casual ones.

Embrace your singlehood. Because you won't get it back. 
Being single is not about putting your life on hold for that perfect relationship.
It is a time where you can grow into your role in society.
A time where you can travel.
A time where you can do mission work.
A time where you can invest in your friendships.
A time where you can dedicate yourself to your studies.
A time where  you can find new hobbies.
A time where you can get to know "you".
A time where you can have Netflix nights.
A time where you can go on an impromptu trip with friends. 
A time where you can prepare your heart for that future relationship.

There's joy in being single. The grace is in finding it.



  1. This post is so inspiring. I love the quote "High school is about finding your bridesmaids not your husband". Thank you for posting this! I definitely needed it.

  2. Such a lovely, well-needed post for the day. :)

  3. This is so, so beautiful Grace. <333 Perfect to hear on Valentine's Day. Thank you so much!

  4. I love this! Who needs a boyfriend right now? I'd much rather concentrate on friendships!

  5. To be honest, it kind of saddens me when I see all of the obligatory "hey hey but singlehood is good I like it I mean look at me don't I excel at it" posts that come in around Valentine's Day, because really, singlehood is defended so much, almost obsessively, like it's a bad thing and we have to try to prove that it isn't. Call me old-fashioned, call me jealous, whatever, but high schoolers are not supposed to be dating. The purpose of dating, so to speak, is marriage, and high schoolers, and generally even some college kids, aren't supposed to be dating on a lark, for fun. Instead of sitting around and mooning after guys, why don't most girls just try to make themselves into the best version of themselves that they can be? Instead of trying to find love as a trial-by-error kind of thing, why don't we focus on deepening their relationship with God? And instead of sitting and crying about chick flicks (I might be being a bit harsh, I can't stand chick flicks... give me LOTR anyday xD), we should be making ourselves into the holy woman that we would wish holy men fall in love with. So, I couldn't agree with you more. xD And I'm done.